Going through a divorce comes with challenges and surprises. Social media is one aspect you may not think about when entering into a divorce, but it can have an impact on everything from public perception to asset management. Make sure you protect yourself and your children by keeping these habits in check:
Determine when to break the news together
Depending on how long you’ve been married, your divorce announcement can reach a wide number of people from former classmates to children (or grandchildren) or their teachers.
It’s important that you sit down with your ex-partner to try to determine the best way to announce the separation. This way, both of you have time to contact your inner social circle, and your partner’s mother doesn’t have to learn about the announcement via news feed.
Extending this small courtesy to your ex-partner helps set a great example for children or family friends, and lets you control when you receive the wave of comments and questions that follow.
Facebook invites you to post everything, making it a tempting outlet for any frustrations you may have about the speed of the divorce proceedings, the way the court system works or just life in general.
Remember, Facebook posts are saved forever. Frustration is understandable when going through a divorce, but no one wants to see it on Facebook.
Imagine how you’d feel if a client or employer found that post. If you feel like you need to share with someone, call a close friend or sibling, or write it down in a journal.
Don’t disparage your partner
Bitterness doesn’t suit anyone. Posting on social media about the other person or how much better you’re feeling now that you’ve made the decision to separate won’t do any good. Instead, it only damages your own reputation.
The adage “if you don’t have anything nice to say…” applies double to social media. Try to keep your posts positive and focused on the good areas of your life. This will allow all involved to heal and move on.
Social media can be tempting to turn to when you are in the middle of a divorce, to air grievances or to commiserate with friends. Resisting these impulses will help you move past the divorce itself and on to your new life.
If you have any questions about the divorce process or are considering separation, make sure you have well-qualified representation to guide you and ensure you are treated fairly.