Could divorce actually be good for your family?

It is difficult to make the decision to end your marriage. Even if this choice has come after months of consideration and careful thought, moving forward with divorce can be intimidating and overwhelming. If you are a parent, one of your primary concerns during this time likely pertains to how this choice will affect your children. While every member of the family will experience effects, it may surprise you to learn that divorce could actually be good for everyone. 

Divorce is a serious choice and will bring difficult transitions, regardless of how amicable you and the other spouse resolve to be. However, once the initial difficulties have passed, it may surprise you to learn that there are often many benefits to this choice, and you may find that your entire family has more stability because of this decision. 

Choosing the best for everyone 

The best choices are sometimes the most difficult ones to make. Divorce will change virtually every aspect of your life, and it will bring changes to your finances, how often you see your children, where you live and more. These are not easy things to navigate, and there are many difficult emotions associated with divorce for both parents and children. Some of the reasons why you may choose to divorce include: 

• It can improve your mental and emotional well-being over time, giving you the capacity to be a more involved, loving and present parent when it is your scheduled time with the kids. 
• You may find that your divorce allows you to have better and closer relationships with your children as you will have concentrated and designated time with them according to your custody and visitation plan. 
• Making the best choice, even if it is the most difficult, may set an example for your kids regarding how to set healthy boundaries and protect their mental and emotional well-being. 

These are only a few examples of ways that divorce can actually be a positive step for you and your family. When considering your options, it is important to make your decisions based on what will truly be best long-term, not how you feel in the moment. If you are unsure of what to do or how to proceed, you may benefit from having experienced guidance from the very beginning.